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Hi xLizzieSantx,

There’s no one “right” way of doing anything sexual! I’m curious about how your boyfriend knew that you weren’t ready, and what changed for you that you feel you are ready to take your sexual relationship further. It sounds like it might be helpful for you and him to talk more about what you want, whether this is a good time to try out anything new, and what you’re worried about or expect.

Any kind of sex (oral, anal, vaginal) can be a great experience, but it takes good communication between partners. People usually enjoy things more when they aren’t feeling really nervous or anxious about things like performance, and also when they’ve talked with their partners about important stuff like protection against unintended pregnancy, and sexually transmitted diseases.

I’d really recommend talking with your partner some more about this decision and letting him know if you’re feeling nervous. There’s no rush to do anything, and hopefully the two of you can work out a way to talk about things so that if you do decide to be sexual together, you both feel good about the decision. Here’s some more information about conversations that can be helpful to have before having sex: